Grammy Thomas

You may be hearing music that's lively, like Grammy, but I can hear her saying "Now don't go telling people I'm some kind of saint."

Grammy Fae
My Grammy Thomas was funny, cute, talkative, and creative, with a style all her own. Rarely, if ever, did she wear clothing that was entirely store-bought. Part of an old sheer nightgown might become sleeves for a dress. A lace doily might end up as a collar or cuffs, and a bedspread could become chair upholstery. Her family was her greatest treasure.

Grammy was born Frances Alice Neal, October 30, 1890 in Columbus City, Iowa on the "wrong side of the tracks". Daughter of a devout church woman and an often tipsy poolhall owner, she graduated high school in Wapello, Iowa. She studied an additional year at "Normal" school, then spent several years teaching all elementary grades in a one-room schoolhouse. Sometimes she had trouble disciplining, as many of the children were bigger than her "almost five feet" stature.

Maybe those who didn't have a chance to know her can get an idea of her personality from some of the poems she wrote:

                FRUSTRATION

Sometimes life seems an awful mess,
Can't figure it out, even make a good guess.

Sister in Texas writes "Too much sun.
A rainy day is a treat for one."

Here in the city, we yearn for old Sol,
Too many dark days about downs us all.

The man at the desk midst the city's strife,
Craves for himself, the rural life.

Country brother thinks it's just not fair,
"Gee, what a swell time they must have in there."

A couple fine, pray for children, even one,
While others get many and wish they had none.

The laughing miss who craves tarlatan gay,
Wears a crisp white uniform today.

The lad who yearned so for Air Corps life,
Gets his chance, but he now has a wife.

And the one who loved and would like to wed,
Gets an Army bunk for himself instead.

So it goes on forever, I would guess,
Sometimes life seems an awful mess.

But it all winds up with a simple sum,
"Dust to dust" for everyone.

Frances Nea1 Thomas, Circa 1941

Grandad & Grammy T
Chicago, January 5, 1952
That's Grandad, who was 6'2", holding me. Grammy, in heels, did her best to reach 5 feet.

It took Grammy several years to convince her mother-in-law that she was good enough for her son, Carl, but she was finally fully accepted.

Fae and Carl were married 72 years when he passed away. After that her only wish was to join him. She got her wish a couple of years later, on January 3, 1988, at the age of 97.

                OLD AGE

My hair is gray, that once was brown,
I know that I am letting down.
The world could easily see the sham
If I act younger than I am.

Fortunately, I have reached the stage
Where I'm content to be my age.
But if to be my age means that
I must talk of all my ills,
The shaky hands that cause the spills,
My brain that is so like a sieve,
And how hard it is these days to live.

Or if to be my age means that
I must talk about a bygone time
When men were stronger, women prettier,
Food better, humor wittier,
Or if to be my age means that
I must snort and grumble at
Whatever isn't cast
Into the pattern of the past.

If this were requisite to gauge
How thoroughly I am my age,
Then being my age will never suit me,
And if it does - Please, just shoot me!

Frances Neal Thomas, 1976

cousins
New Year's Day, 1954
Grammy with me and cousins Randy and Neal. I'm not sure she ever saw all four of her natural grandchildren at one time.
The gangs all here
The whole "Thomas" clan 1/1/1954

Updated August 4, 1998


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